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14 things you should never say in a relationship!

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Words have a serious impact on individual’s mindset, if said in agressive tone. Those who say that they don’t give a damn to even worse words spoken to them. In reality, they do get hurt and even cry in loneliness. We as a human should focus on the communication style we adopt, thinking how they can damage other’s dignity and self-esteem. We need to be very particular while speaking to others. Our focus should be quality talk rather argumenting in a way that comes out to be heated debate in the end. Our words should not distress or sadden others.

Same like this, when we are in a relationship, we are committed to each other. While staying together, clashes come in between. This would often happen that normal conversation transforms into frightening one without any solid reason, more or less the results are devastating if you don’t have a control on your tongue.

No matter for how long you have been in love with each other, testing time comes on every couple that they have to pass. There are certain set of rules to be followed. One should totally eradicate few words from the dictionary of relationship.

When fighting or arguing, never say hurtful words you don’t mean. Once gone, you can’t take them back. They have more powerful punch than any fist.

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1. “I JUST DON’T WANT TO LIVE WITH YOU ANYMORE”.

Forget that you even have right to divorce. It’s not funny that everytime you are threatening your spouse to get apart. Unless you think that it is the height of your patience level that has passed, don’t say this word “DIVORCE“. If you have made up your mind to leave your partner and is determined to divorce him/her, still you should think thrice and even more before taking a firm decision.

2. “YOU ARE NOT THE SAME PERSON”.

Saying this would mean you are pointing fingers towards your spouse that he/she has changed, in regard to his/her character. You are challenging his personality which can lead him to the wrong way. Rather you can say “You used to be so lively and exuberant…how can I help you in your business so that we can spend some quality time together?

3. CRITICIZING HIS/HER FAMILY.

Wrong words about his family can push him in wrong direction. Your mother always do this or she always has been so negative, can make your character negative. So avoid this conflict. Giving respect would increase your respect in eyes of people and his family too. Same for men, avoid harsh words for your wife’s family that the lunch was not upto criteria. Dinner they invited on, was tasteless and full of flaws etc.

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4. “YOU ARE OVER REACTING”.

This would undermine your partner’s feelings that she is making issue out of nothing and is being over sensitive. Try to understand your wife’s situation rather negating her. It is a direct declaration of war.

5. ABUSING.

There are few patterns to live your life by. Name calling is extremely disrespectful and should be avoided. Derogating each other is hurtful and should not be a part of relationship.

Broken bone can heal but the wound a words opens can fester forever.

(JESSAMYN WEST).

6. “YOU HAVE WRONGLY QUOTED IT”.

Saying this is a straight attack that he has lesser knowledge than you, his grammer is not correct or he doesn’t have a good memory like yours. Taking out such mere mistakes can make you guyz feel insecure with each other’s presence.

A tongue has no bones but it is strong enough to break a heart so be careful with your words.

7. “WHO CARES”.

Stop behaving like his words don’t make sense and this WHATEVER gesture will eventually finishes up the relationship. This is a sign that you don’t give a damn. No, no and again NO. Just don’t say this.

8. “YOU DRIVE LIKE A CRAZY WOMAN”.

Making your wife feel like “A stupid man drives way better than her and sitting with her on front seat when she is driving is an open invitition to some accident”, would leave a scar on her heart. She will be less confident while driving and would finally take a decision “Not to drive”. What impression she would have on kids I mean they won’t feel safe with their own mommy in car just because you as a husband is not encouraging enough.

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9. “DON’T TOUCH MY PHONE”.

Saying this tells your partner that something is fishy. Phone is a mere device which has your personal data saved in it, not letting your spouse touch it means there is something wrong that is going on and you are not sincere in a relationship.
Life is better spent together which has no secrets. Keep in mind!!

10. “WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOUR BODY STRUCTURE”.

Saying this can fix one thing in your partner’s mind that you are not satisfied with his/her physical appearance and don’t even want to go out for a walk with him/her.

11. “I JUST HATE BEING WITH YOU”.

Who is going to take these hatred feelings out of your partner’s head that you once have delivered to him/her by mistake or with intentions? This is the end, you can’t be so blunt in a relationship. You need to be bit ethical here. Are you talking to your younger sibling or Is it a joke? Think plenty of times before saying this.

12. “IS THIS WHAT YOU CAN DO TO MAX”.

Be careful with what you say, you can say something hurtful in ten seconds, but ten years later, the wounds are still there.

(JOEL OSTEEN)

You are challenging your partner that that’s all he can do. You are convincing him/her to take extreme action. Never ever do that. You are forcing him to keep long fights and the outcomes of this are severe.

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13. “OH SHUT UP”.

What type of language is that. You will lose respect once you say this. Your partner can never forget this rude bahavior throughout his life. Words can be forgiven but can never forgotten.

14. “OUT OF THE ROOM”.

I feel most of the time men would say this. When children make noise and don’t let father sleep, they unintentionally say their wives to take them out with her as he has to go to sleep and return back to work next day, THAT’S FINE. Compromises are part of relationship. But I have seen some uncivilized men who don’t ask their women to change the room but hurt them by saying to “GET OUT OF THE ROOM NOW”!! What kind of attitude is this? I mean Is she a wife or a servant who can be asked to leave when there is no need?? And those children Are they of someone else? What’s the point of this impoliteness?

Words spoken in anger leave wounds that never heal. So concentrate on your words and tone before you spit them out.

Hope you had a happy reading ☺ Comment below in discussion section to share your experience that what difficulties you had to confront when said something wrong to your partner! This is just like you drop a coin in a helping box to help those who can have a safe relation in future due to your one logical advice. 😊

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